In 2012, Facebook was only 8 years old, but it had already claimed its place as the most visited social media platform. After Kwinn passed, Korie noticed comments on his page from many of his friends. 

“He had all of these friends and people in his life that I didn’t know about,” Korie says. “I remember reading inside jokes that they posted and seeing the side of my brother that I didn’t know about—and I would have never known about, if it weren’t for social media. It gave me an appreciation for all the people he had in his life who cared about him and who missed him.” 

Since its conception, social media has changed the way we process grief—in some cases for the better, and in others, maybe not so much. Social media has made it easier to notify others about a loved one’s death while the family is still dealing with the initial shock, and it has also brought opportunity for people to come together and celebrate their loved one. But on the flip side, social media users may also use public grief for attention or profit. 

Let’s take a closer look at the ways that social media has changed the way we grieve, as well as the pros and cons of using it to express grief for our lost loved ones online.

Notifying others

It’s never welcome news to find out that someone you were once close with passed away, and it especially isn’t pleasant to find out via social media. But for families, social media can relieve some of the burden of getting the word out about funeral services and other arrangements. 

“Being 19, a lot of [Kwin’s] friends had gone away to college,” Korie says. “I didn’t know his friends from high school and didn’t have contact information, but they were able to find out and come to the funeral and the wake. The place was packed—there was not enough room for everyone who attended.” 

Grieving online: Together while apart 

Microblogging, or posting frequent social media statuses, offers a mode of undirected communication that helps people reach out for support. Research indicates that this type of communication helps people feel less alone in difficult times. 

“People that are sharing their grief or grieving online are really looking for support [and] community,” says Jessica Moneo, a trauma therapist who lives in Scottsdale, Arizona. Although doing this can be cathartic, it doesn’t replace in-person relationships. Moneo still urges her patients to seek offline support outside of those micro bonds.

“That feeling of support and community [online is] beautiful, and there’s certainly a place for that,” Moneo adds. “How do we kind of mesh that while [coming back] to bringing casseroles to people’s houses when someone passes away?” 

According to Emily Raymond, Ph.D., a pediatric psychology fellow at Stanford, social media can be a space to bond over a shared love for someone who has made an impact on the community. 

“If a schoolteacher dies, a lot of their students can come together online and talk about their positive memories of the person,” she says. “[It’s a] positive way that social media can help us process grief.” 

Attention seeking and monetization 

Raymond adds that people often rush to publicly grieve on social media, even for people they don’t know well.

“Sometimes it’s celebrities [or] sometimes even just people in your hometown that maybe you don’t even know very well,” she says. “But you can kind of jump on this bandwagon of, ‘Oh, I knew this person; therefore, I can be part of their spotlight of grief.” 

She’s also worried about people using grief for monetary gain. “Even if it’s a true personal grief that they’re experiencing, they’re able to monetize that, which is a very ethically and morally complex thing,” Raymond says.  

No right way to grieve

Do you have to be close to people to grieve for them? Moneo doesn’t think so. 

“What if we relabel [attention seeking] as connection seeking? It [might be] the first time that anybody they’ve known has passed away,” she says. “And so for them, it does feel really big. Who are we to say who can and can’t grieve?” 

The one caveat is that grieving online must be appropriate. 

“If it doesn’t show them in a good light or you’re talking about addictions and [loved ones] don’t want that up, there’s a place to have a conversation around that,” she adds. 

As for Korie, she’s grateful that social media has provided a space for the people who loved Kwinn to share about him, as well for his family to see how loved he was—and still is. 

“My brother’s best friend still posts on his Facebook,” Korie says. “He’s said [he] could do it in [his] journal but that [he] posts on Kwinn’s wall so that [my] mom can still see that he still cares about him and thinks about him.”

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What are the risks of dating a coworker?

Before diving headfirst into an office romance, it’s important to evaluate your employee handbook to figure out if your company has any policies on dating within the workplace. 

Janene Binnion, the human resources director at Smith Industries LLC, notes that coworkers at the same level in the company are generally okay to date without legal repercussions. However, when it comes to engaging in a romance with a superior or subordinate, it’s best to steer clear. 

“It is not illegal to date a coworker,” says Binnion. “However, if you are at a higher level than the person you are dating, especially if you are their direct manager, there could be considerable legal considerations if the relationship ends badly and the other person decides to make a claim of sexual harassment.”

Sexual harassment in the workplace

According to the U.S. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC), sexual harassment includes, “unwelcome sexual advances, requests for sexual favors, and other verbal or physical harassment of a sexual nature,” and can be, “the victim’s supervisor, a supervisor in another area, a co-worker, or someone who is not an employee of the employer, such as a client or customer.”

“Whether starting a relationship or ending one, if the other person decides they are no longer interested, you must go along with their decision,” says Binnion. “You can never continue to send text messages or call someone or send emails about dating them. That will get you in trouble or even fired if the other party goes to human resources—even if they say they don’t want to get you fired. If the company gets the idea that you are harassing another employee in any way, they will be

obligated to protect their employee.”

Another reason not to date your boss is that it might set you back in your career. A 2016 study suggests that subordinates in “hierarchical workplace romances” (or an in-office romance where one person is the other’s supervisor) are less likely to be promoted and selected for professional development opportunities than those not in relationships with a superior in the office.

Other risks may include claims of favoritism, especially if the coworker you are dating is your supervisor or subordinate. With all the risks in mind, you can decide if the relationship is worth pursuing or if you should remain platonic.

How to handle dating in the workplace

Assuming your company is okay with in-office dating and you’ve evaluated the risks, you have the green light to engage in a relationship with your coworker.

So, should you tell everyone you’re dating? According to Binnion, it’s important to keep your relationship extremely confidential in the beginning in case it doesn’t work out. 

“I recommend [telling coworkers] only once you are extremely serious, probably once you are engaged. Most people won’t do this but after 30+ years in human resources that’s my recommendation,” says Binnion.

Be sure to inform HR of your relationship if your company has a policy that requires disclosure. 

At work, be sure not to show any public displays of affection or favoritism towards your partner and remain professional so as to avoid making fellow coworkers uncomfortable or stirring up office gossip. 

Bottom line

Before dating a coworker, employees should reference their employee handbook to see if their company has any guidelines or restrictions on office romances. Those who want to engage in an office romance should be respectful of their fellow coworkers and remain professional at the office. Binnion emphasizes that it’s crucial to consider all the risks and ask yourself if the relationship is worth it.

“In my experience, most people don’t give any consideration to it at all. They simply find themselves attracted to a coworker and begin dating without giving any thought to it at all, which could be a big mistake,” says Binnion.

The aforementioned SHRM study indicates that 10% of U.S. workers left a job they liked because of a breakup with someone at work.

“Think about it long and hard because most relationships don’t last and you don’t want to ruin your career or decide it’s easier to leave a company you like than to see your ex every day,” says Binnion.

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Higher education expert Jeff Selingo, author of Who Gets In and Why, says this trend is striking: “What I am seeing is… more of a questioning of the value, even among affluent families, of paying full price… at some of these colleges and universities.”

The pandemic also reshaped the landscape. Mental health concerns among teens have skyrocketed, and some students feel less socially and emotionally ready to leave home. Meanwhile, the rising costs and high-stakes nature of college admissions have families questioning if the college path is worth the stress. 

Kathleen deLaski, founder of Education Design Lab and author of Who Needs College Anymore?, points out that affluent families, in particular, have the flexibility to explore other paths: “They have more options—they can explore other paths, like apprenticeships, industry certifications and bootcamps or YouTube learning and just see what happens. They are less likely to feel the need [to go to] college to get to the middle class or earn a legitimacy label.”

This shift signals a broader cultural redefinition of success—and an opportunity for parents to rethink what’s best for their children.

Reframing success: How to share the big picture

When your teen says, “I don’t think college is for me,” it’s natural to worry: “What will people think?” “Will they be OK?”

But what if we focused less on traditional markers of success—like degrees—and more on what actually drives fulfillment and happiness?

The Harvard Study of Adult Development, which has tracked participants for over 80 years, offers key insight: Happiness and fulfillment come from meaningful relationships —not necessarily from a specific income or title.

Vocational and technical careers are also seeing a resurgence. Jobs in skilled trades are projected to grow significantly in the coming decade, and many of these roles offer salaries on par with or higher than traditional degree holders.

Freelancing and entrepreneurship are also on the rise. Upwork Research Institute’s 2023 Freelance Forward survey found that over a third of the U.S. workforce is freelancing, with younger generations leading the way. These nontraditional paths offer flexibility, creativity and opportunities for real-world experience.

For teens who are unsure about committing to a four-year degree, nontraditional credentials like bootcamps and certifications are increasingly viable. Georgetown University research shows that these pathways can lead to good jobs in industries like tech, management, trades and healthcare.

When someone asks, “Why isn’t your child going to college?” a confident response might be: “They’re exploring opportunities that align with their goals and values. We’re excited to see where their journey takes them.”

The emotional side: Building trust and open dialogue

A challenge many parents face is creating a safe space for teens to share their true thoughts and feelings. Psychologist SD Shanti, founder of the World Love Forum, emphasizes that trust-building needs to happen long before these pivotal conversations arise.

“Parents and children would benefit greatly from regular conversations about neutral topics that are not about performance….” Shanti says. “Strive to express love for who… [your] child is—apart from what he or she does.”

A recent study shows that “in parent-teenager relationships, quietly listening to a teenager while showing them they are valued and appreciated for their honesty has a powerful effect on their willingness to open up.” Shanti also recommends a “yes, and…” approach from improv comedy to keep conversations flowing:

Teen: “I don’t think college is for me.”

Parent: “Yes, and I want to understand what you see for yourself instead. Let’s talk about what excites you about other paths.”

The key is to make your child feel loved and supported, regardless of whether they follow the path you envisioned for them.

Supporting your teen’s pathway to success

If your teen opts out of college, they’ll need structured opportunities to build life skills and gain real-world experience. Research shows that young adults who have hands-on learning experiences are more likely to develop essential life skills that lead to long-term success. Here’s how you can help:

1. Build executive function skills

Executive function skills—time management, organization and goal-setting—are critical for navigating both personal and professional challenges. According to Harvard University’s Center on the Developing Child, “executive function skills help us plan, focus attention, switch gears and juggle tasks… [which are] core skills for lifelong health and well-being.”

Encourage your teen to take ownership of their schedule through tools like digital planners or task management apps such as Todoist or Notion. These tools help build autonomy while teaching teens how to prioritize tasks and meet deadlines—key skills they’ll need to thrive in both work and life. Even small tasks, like managing household chores or planning their own travel itinerary, can reinforce responsibility and self-discipline.

2. Foster social skills

Social capital is just as important as technical skills in building a successful career. According to the National Association of Colleges and Employers (NACE), over 95% of employers prioritize communication and interpersonal skills when hiring. Community projects, volunteer work or internships give teens opportunities to build relationships, practice collaboration and engage with diverse groups—critical skills that will serve them in any field.

Consider encouraging your teen to participate in programs like AmeriCorps or Global Citizen Year, which provide structured opportunities to engage in service work and build a strong professional network. For students interested in creative industries, local art collectives or maker spaces can offer collaborative environments to build both technical and social skills.

3. Promote self-discovery

Experiential learning—where students engage in hands-on projects—has been shown to increase curiosity, resilience and problem-solving skills. Encourage your teen to explore their passions through internships, travel or personal creative projects. For example, if they’re interested in sustainable living, they could take part in a program like WWOOF (Worldwide Opportunities on Organic Farms), which combines travel with hands-on agricultural work. 

Similarly, students interested in entrepreneurship can explore startup incubators like The Knowledge Society, which is designed to help young people turn ideas into real-world projects. These experiences will help your teen discover their strengths, develop critical skills and gain a clearer sense of purpose—regardless of whether they pursue a traditional degree.

Redefining success for the next generation

Shanti emphasizes, “…to connect on the level of love and care and let the child know that they are loved, and you [the parent] are not being a police who enforces, but rather a guide who knows the terrain.” When your teen says, “College isn’t for me,” it’s not a dead end—it’s an open door to explore who they are and what truly lights them up.

As Selingo notes, “Families are more savvy now around this idea that not every child within the family unit is alike.” By fostering opportunities for skill-building, exploration and open communication, parents can guide their teens toward a life of purpose and fulfillment. The world is evolving, and success doesn’t have a singular definition anymore. The best gift you can give your teen is the confidence to pursue it on their own terms.

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However, this discussion isn’t always so simple. Talking bluntly about finances can be awkward enough that couples might dodge the conversation entirely.

“Couples are much more willing to talk about their sex life than their finances,” says Jay Zigmont, Ph.D., a certified financial planner (CFP) and the founder of Childfree Wealth®. “If you look at the number one reason for divorce, it’s infidelity. And number two is money…. Most of your success with finance has to do with your behaviors [and] your money scripts…. The challenge is most adults don’t even realize the money scripts they’re using.”

Your money mindset matters more than you think

Zigmont goes on to explain how frequently he comes across couples who have opposing money mindsets. One person might have a scarcity mindset that leaves them concerned about running out of money—and as a result, they tend to compulsively save—but they marry someone who has an abundance mindset and enjoys spending their money. Conflict then arises because each feels as though the other is acting contrary to their own goals and beliefs.

“In an ideal world, they’d each rub off on each other, [where] the scarcity person [gets] a little more abundance and the abundance person [gets] a little more scarcity,” Zigmont says. “You’ve got to be talking to your spouse about it [or] you’ll just build up resentment…. The numbers [and] the math are less important [than if you have] the same set of goals and [if you’re] there to support each other.” 

It’s also relevant to note the extent to which our upbringing and family lives impact our attitudes toward money. “A lot of it is shaped in childhood, and it can even be intergenerational,” says Rivka Hadar, clinical psychologist at The Wellness Evolution. “If there has been real financial deprivation,… times when there’s been food on the table and times when there hasn’t been, of course that’s going to affect us…. [But] somebody who’s grown up with a silver spoon in their mouth… may not even notice how much things cost…. They could even be a bit careless [with money].”

But just because two people have different money mindsets doesn’t mean they’re doomed to incompatibility based on finances alone. “The beauty of a relationship is working through those differences,” Hadar explains. “If we don’t share essential values, it becomes incompatible. But if we can work through the differences… and come to common ground, that’s when it becomes compatible.”

Approaching awkward conversations can be easier with third-party help

Unfortunately, the prospect of raising such an awkward conversation means most couples avoid it, to their own detriment. However, enlisting the support of a third-party facilitator could be an easier way to bring up these conversations.

According to Hadar, a psychologist—especially one with experience working with couples—can help you tackle the root of the emotional component to money talks. “Often when things are going pear-shaped, it can feel like two people on different islands. [You need] somebody to facilitate that and say, ‘Wait a second. We’re not enemies here. Let’s listen to both sides’ and… help you hear what the other person is saying, because sometimes what you hear is not what the other person has said.”

Zigmont also advises enlisting a CFP, even if it’s just so you can pin the blame on someone for telling you to ask the difficult questions. “I love people blaming me,” he laughs. “There’s a general rule in coaching or planning that says you can’t coach somebody who’s seen you naked… a tongue-in-cheek way of saying you can’t teach your spouse…. [But] I can ask the tough questions that they don’t want to ask each other…. They want to ask it, but they can’t say the words.” 

Ground rules and patience are essential when talking finances

If you’re keen on trying to navigate these conversations without support, Hadar has several recommendations. “Set up the rules beforehand,” she says. “We’re going to be talking about something really difficult [that] could bring up a lot of emotions—[so] let’s figure out a way of recognizing when [the conversation is] becoming unhelpful and kind of saying, ‘Okay, we’ll restart this. We’ll address this again when we’re more ourselves.’” 

She also advises approaching the discussion as an exploration and acknowledging that this is just one conversation of many more to come. Because of this, deciding on goals before having the conversation is essential. She suggests asking, “’What is it that we both want? [Do] we want to come out of this [as] a couple [with] a way forward?’”

Finally, Hadar advises slowing down, despite the urgency that tends to crop up when having these important conversations. By tabling the conversation for a few days, couples can reduce that urgency. “[We need to slow] it down so that we can really listen,” she says. “Our whole fear mechanism in our body and mind takes over [when things seem too urgent], and then we can’t really explore it or listen or be a collaborative partner.” 

If you’re feeling self-conscious about the amount of problems you’re bringing to the table, try to cut yourself some slack. “We all bring baggage to a relationship, whether it’s finances, life, work or family,” Zigmont explains. However, a healthy sense of realism is important too. “If you go into the relationship and expect [someone] to change, there’s very little likelihood [it will happen]…. And that just causes resentment,” he adds. “People like to say… ‘Love’s gonna make it better,’ [but] it doesn’t fix [financial] problems.”

Financially incompatible couples still have a shot

Even if two people seem financially incompatible, they still have a chance to work through their differences.

“If two people… are brave enough to face the nooks and crannies of themselves… there’s incredible hope,” Hadar says. “We all want to run away from discomfort—it’s just bodily natural…. But if we work through it… that’s what helps a couple get to the next level. And that’s where you see beautiful things… in a relationship [where] people feel more connected and understood.”

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A study found that the average couple talks with one other for about 35 minutes per week—mostly about errands and completing tasks, says Morgan Daffron, a licensed marriage and family therapist in Brooklyn, N.Y. With a never-ending to-do list and so many daily obligations competing for our attention, it can be difficult for couples to spend quality time together. 

However, small changes that encourage couples to engage each other for modest amounts of time each day can strengthen a relationship, says Daffron.

One way to ensure we connect with our partner daily is to try a couple’s challenge that prompts us to engage in conversation and show appreciation for each other. “It injects trust, kindness, warmth and love—all the things we need to feel connected and safe in a relationship in a world where we’re pulled in so many different directions,” says Frankie Bashan, licensed clinical psychologist, and founder and CEO at Little Gay Book, an LGBTQ+ matchmaking service in San Francisco.

Here are four engaging couple challenges that don’t require a large financial investment and are easy to do at home.

1. Write love notes for seven days

When was the last time you told your partner what you love about them? Writing love notes for seven days gives you an opportunity to bring intimacy, love, belonging and attachment into the relationship, Daffron says.

The idea is for each member of the couple to write a note to their partner recognizing something they love about them every day for a week. “The love notes remind us on a daily basis the practice of how we feel about our partner and gets us into the habit of expressing how important that person is to us,” Bashan says.

Writing love notes also gives us the needed reserves to see our partner in a positive light even when things are stressful or not going as well, says Michela Stevenson, an associate marriage and family therapist at Hold the Vision Therapy in Chicago. “When people are going through times of stress, they tend to view the negative side of things, so this helps people view the positive aspects of the relationship,” she says.

2. Commit to no-phone date nights

Looking at our phone every few minutes has become a habit for most of us. Couples trying to spend quality time together may need to put boundaries around their phone use when they are together, Bashan says. She recommends couples commit to spending an hour and a half being present with each other without their phones, either during dinner or while watching TV or a movie. “Unless this structure is set in place and we commit to it, we won’t do it on our own,” Bashan says.

3. Spend a week trying something new

Trying a new activity together can add spontaneity to a relationship. Bashan explains that it can also help a couple relate to one another, provide new topics to discuss, and create a mutual sense of excitement. 

A new activity could be as simple as cooking dinner together, playing a board game or listening to a podcast or audiobook—and then discussing it. If you’re interested in trying a new game, Stevenson recommends card games like Where Should We Begin or The {   } And that can help couples have deeper conversations. “I tell my couples, if you don’t have the energy to figure out how to play it as the game, just draw out conversation cards and ask each other,” she says.

4. Track kindness

One way to remind each other how much we are loved and valued is to track acts of kindness by having each partner put a marble or button in a bowl or jar each time the partner is moved by something their significant other does.

This challenge becomes a visual reminder of your love for each other, says Patricia Dixon, a licensed clinical psychologist in East Palmetto, Florida. If those buttons aren’t stacking up fast enough, then you might realize you’ve been neglecting your partner, she says.

“A lot of time we do things and we don’t even know how our partner is receiving or perceiving it,” Bashan says. This challenge will reflect to each other the things we do that are seen and noticed.

“It’s this idea of catching your partner doing something kind, because a lot of us can focus on the ‘why did you leave your socks on the coffee table?’ or ‘why is the toilet seat up?’ when you know there are a lot of really good things that we can catch our partner doing,” Daffron says.

Extra points if you tell your partner what they did to make you put a button in the bowl, Stevenson says. 

Commit to trying throughout the year

Rather than doing a challenge for a week or a month, consider committing to using what you learned from the challenge to create relationship rules, Daffron says. For instance, you might make it a rule that you sit at a table and talk during dinner once a week, or you put away your phones for 90 minutes each week when you spend time together.

“I tell couples that in a relationship it’s constant work, and you never stop putting in the work and when you do, that’s when things start to divide and separate,” Dixon says.

These simple, but effective, couple challenges can help you see your partner in a new light and help remind you why you fell in love. 

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Digging deep into every type of relationship

Valentine’s Day provides an opportunity to dig into and really understand humans in a way very few holidays do. My job was to make sure that we had messages for every type of relationship—the idealized Hallmark movie sort, sure, but also the messy “real” couples who are just trying to figure out this life thing together.  

The right Valentine’s Day card says just enough. It helps strengthen a relationship, offers a way to reconnect and shows how well you know your favorite person. It might feel like an over-the-top, ultra-mushy card is the best way to make an impact, but usually, that’s not the case. 

What I’ve discovered over the years is that the secret to editing greeting cards is the same as the secret to buying them: Aim for a message that is meaningful while still being authentic to the reality of the relationship. I can say from experience that it’s a heck of a tightrope to walk, but when you get it right, it’s the best feeling in the world.  

Learning about the shopper

One of my favorite parts of greeting card creation is learning about the shopper. Sure, this often means sorting through statistics and research, but nothing beats learning from observing humans themselves. 

Over the years, I’ve found that scrolling through social media is one of the best ways to learn how people talk about the ones they love. True, you don’t get anyone’s ugliest moments from social media posts, but you don’t need to. No one wants to put their worst moments in their greeting cards, and even cards that highlight real-life things don’t focus on fights or disagreements. Ultimately, a card is a way to bring people together. Watching how people represent their own relationships online is a great way to push past tired greeting card platitudes and focus on the language and words real people use. 

This exercise also helped me identify trends and patterns among different posts. For instance, one year, our team had a hot debate about whether “hubby” and “wifey” were terms that people really used (aside from as a joke on products like pillows). Digging into social media posts was a great way to see who was using these terms of endearment and whether they should be added to some of our cards.

Back when I worked at Hallmark, I often participated in market tours, where we went to the stores and observed the shoppers themselves. These opportunities gave us a chance to see which cards shoppers picked up, which they put back and which they ultimately decided to buy.    

It takes a village to make a card 

Even now, I’m amazed at just how many people may be involved in the making of a single greeting card. At Hallmark, every card we created was a labor of love from writers, visual partners and paper engineers. Each was a mix of art and science—strategically created, but always with an immense amount of heart. 

As an editor, my job was to work with my visual partners to create a total package of what the future card could be. Sometimes we started with directions as specific as a lettering-focused card that talks about the ups and downs of a nonidealized relationship. Other times the content of the card was much more open-ended, and the prompt offered a way to depict a couple without limiting the race or gender of the sender and recipient. Sometimes, there was no initial goal for the spot at all, and it was our job to figure out what the line was missing. 

The secret to buying the perfect Valentine’s Day card

Every card out there is meant to work for a whole lot of people—otherwise, the companies wouldn’t make any money. Even so, a good greeting card should feel as though it was written just for you and your relationship. 

If you’re looking to up your game and find that perfect fit, here are some places to start:  

Shop early

Unless you’re a last-minute shopper, try not to be one of the people crowded in the greeting card aisle on Feb. 14, digging through the dredges. The cards come out as soon as Christmas comes down, which gives you a solid month and a half to find one you adore. For even more flexibility, you can shop online, where many companies keep the various holiday cards live all year. 

Don’t limit yourself to Valentine’s Day cards

Particularly for romantic cards, you can often find the perfect card in the anniversary or love section of a store or website. You can always add a “Happy Valentine’s Day” to a love card if you really want the holiday to be called out.  

Look for icons and words that make you think of your relationship

Maybe you love to camp together or do puzzles while you watch your favorite show. Maybe you love a good bit of humor. Things that remind you of your relationship can make a card feel especially personal without having to get too sentimental.  

Pick the words based on how much you want to write

If you prefer to write your own message, it’s great to choose a card that is blank or has fewer words on it. However, if you feel stuck easily, finding one that already says just the right thing can be a big relief. Remember that the words are personal because you chose them, even if you didn’t write them yourself. They still mean just as much. 

Read the card

This feels like it should be self-explanatory, but people get into a rush and assume any card will work. They’re wrong. For instance, once a Hallmarker’s husband gave them a card all about what a great family they’d raised together. It was touching and sweet and long, but there was one big problem—they didn’t have any kids. Avoid this awkwardness and make sure you know what you’re buying. 

Shop from the heart (not the price tag)

Despite what card companies will try to tell you, a more expensive card will not necessarily mean more than one from the dollar store. A generic heart covered in fancy glitter may have cost you $10, but if the message or art on the $1 card speaks to your relationship more, it’s the one they’ll love most. (Plus, many lower priced cards are created by the same companies as the expensive ones, so you’re likely to find high-quality messages and beautiful illustrations, just without the bells and whistles.) 

Explore beyond the obvious places

Though I’ve been using examples of cards I made while at Hallmark, it’s important to remember that Hallmark and American Greetings aren’t the only options out there. For instance, Lovepop has intricate pop-up cards, Em and Friends and Thoughtful Human are known for their unique voices and Paper Source has some great, simply stated options. Checking out bookstores and card shops near you is also a great way to find a good fit, as many have cards by local artists.

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The comment left me feeling simultaneously warm and fuzzy (because I was so happy to give my kids this valuable gift) and tense and resentful (because I didn’t really consider my ex a friend). The juxtaposition of my opposing feelings in that moment pretty much sums up everything I have learned about successful co-parenting: It is incredibly challenging to execute, but when done well, it is oh-so-rewarding.

I have been divorced for 13 years, and for many of those years, I failed at co-parenting. There were regular arguments in front of the children, bitter comments about my kids’ dad and absolutely no compromise whatsoever. If dad needed to switch nights? I wasn’t going to help him. The kids wanted us both at a school event? I wasn’t going to sit anywhere near him. It was messy, tense and unpleasant. 

Fast-forward 13 years, and my ex and I sit together at hockey games, celebrate the kids’ birthdays together and speak on the phone almost every day. The road to healing has been long and was ultimately paved with humility, self-awareness and intention. I must say, we did a damn good job, and along the way, I’ve learned many co-parenting lessons that also apply to life in general. 

Here are five valuable lessons I’ve learned about co-parenting:

1. Set your ego aside

The ego is a powerful and dangerous thing. By ego, I mean that deep, nagging desire rooted in our hearts, souls and minds that urges us to protect our precious feelings and defend, defend, defend. We humans don’t like feeling hurt, wrong or under attack, so our default mode is to do whatever it takes to not feel that way. 

In the early years of divorce, I felt like a failure as a mother, a wife and a person, and I wanted to (and did) blame anyone and everyone I could to free myself of any guilt or blame. Conversations with my ex became the perfect opportunity to take the blame off of me and put it on him, which caused tension and stress for all involved, especially the kids.

With the help of a good therapist, I learned how to put my ego aside and choose humility. Christine Farber, Ph.D., a retired psychologist and relationship coach, encourages divorced parents to work to embrace their own vulnerability. “Practice self-care and seek support from others as you work through hurt feelings. Embracing the parts of yourself that might seem weak or scary will ironically build strength as well as a greater capacity for closeness, including with your children.” 

2. Proceed with intention

Once I vowed to take accountability, I set my intentions prior to every interaction with my ex: Kids first, ego last. If it wasn’t going to benefit the children, I wouldn’t speak it, not even by way of negative body language. It took practice and discipline. I just kept trying to keep all of our conversations child-focused. 

According to Joseph Cavins, LMFT, a clinical director at Southern California Sunrise Recovery Center, “When both parents are focusing on what is best for the child, every discussion becomes objective, constructive and devoid of either parent’s personal interests…. Placing the child at the forefront allows them to learn how to communicate with kindness and reason, which adds to their ability to solve problems in raising children and in other areas.”

3. Be a team player

Somewhere along the way, I had the powerful epiphany that my ex-husband was and always will be the only other person in the world who loves our children the way (and as much as) I do. This powerful realization allowed me to embrace and accept our new relationship. Broken bones, bad grades and terrible heartaches are not easy to parent through alone, and while I had friends and family to lean on, they just didn’t feel the pain as deeply or have the same protective instincts we did. 

So, in times of celebration and defeat, we learned to lean on each other and tackle the highs and lows of parenting together. According to Farber, even though you are no longer married, “You are still a team when it comes to parenting, and teams succeed in part by having a shared goal and respecting what each teammate contributes to the achievement of that goal.” Like it or not, the love that my ex and I have for our kids will connect us forever; we are, indeed, a team, albeit a divorced one, for life. 

4. Recognize the good in others

Perhaps the single most helpful co-parenting hack I discovered was the magic of complimenting my ex in front of the kids. “Dad is so good at planning fun things for you to do. You are so lucky to have him!” Yes, the words were hard to say on those days when I was full of anger toward my ex-husband, but my kids’ eyes would light up like it was Christmas morning! “Mutual respect and acknowledgment of each other’s capabilities help to minimize rivalry and jealousy and help foster a more harmonious parenting climate,” Cavins says. He suggests taking it one step further and directly complimenting your co-parent to their face. “Through this practice, parents develop a stronger sense of gratitude and appreciation, which can make co-parenting feel less burdensome and more rewarding.” Bottom line? It’s never a bad time to be kind.

5. Maintain perspective

When things feel really hard, and you want to throw in the proverbial towel, remember, this, too, shall pass. One universal (parenting) truth is that the highs are high and the lows are low. Perhaps the lows are lower post-divorce, but the good news is that everything is temporary. The pain of those early years will dissipate. The kids’ tears at drop-off will too. Even the resentment will fade. It may come back, but it will pass again. Happiness, sadness, stress and resentment— they come and go. They simply can’t stick around forever. The key is to practice patience, self-control and forgiveness (of self and your ex) so that you and your family (and yes, that includes your co-parent) have more ups than downs, more laughter than tears and more forgiveness than resentment.

So, on those days when the going gets tough and tensions are high, take deep breaths and remind yourself that this, too, shall pass. And on the days when things are going well, make sure you are humble, kind and healed enough to enjoy it.

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The last few elections have no doubt been polarizing, but this one in particular has highlighted extremes. The candidates couldn’t have had more contrasting backgrounds, beliefs and visions for the future of the country. This divisiveness and volatility has put a strain on many people’s relationships as a result.

If you are considering unfriending people in your circle as a result of the election, it may be time to seek advice from a professional friendship coach.

Unfollowing friends is trending

The 2024 Election Cycle’s Impact on Mental Health & Relationships report from LifeStance Health found that “political disagreements are meaningfully impacting relationships, causing conflict among friends and family and even ending friendships, all of which can significantly impact one’s mental health.” Survey results showed that 44% of respondents said political discussions led to conflicts in their personal lives, 22% said they considered ending a friendship due to opposing political views and 18% said they’ve already ended a friendship. In fact, 34% even said they unfollowed or blocked a friend or family member on social media due to their political views.

Danielle Bayard Jackson—certified friendship coach, women’s relationships expert, host of the Friend Forward podcast and author of Fighting for Our Friendships—saw this happening in real-time. “I saw… people sharing on social media about how they were prepared to end relationships if they discovered that close friends supported certain candidates,” she says. 

She received a slew of messages from her community of over 47,000 Instagram followers asking for her perspective on how to handle this contentious issue, so she looked for reasons that people feel the way they do post-election and how they can address the strain in their friendships. 

“I know… some of the discourse has made it seem very reductive or silly or immature to unfriend someone based on their vote,” she explains, “but I’m trying to help people understand that… it’s more than a vote.” 

3 reasons you may be feeling this way, according to psychology

Bayard Jackson identified three key psychological concepts that might explain why a friendship feels broken after learning how someone voted:

1. There are strong feelings of disillusionment

Disillusionment is a feeling of disappointment that results from discovering that something (or someone) is not as good as we thought it was. “If you believe your friend to be some kind of way and [then] learn that they voted for a candidate you think is maybe harmful, you become disillusioned,” Bayard Jackson explains. 

“If a person… discovered that their friend is aligned… with views they believe to be not just different but [also] dangerous or reductive of their humanity, then I understand how that person would feel that they could not be in any way connected with [that] person,” she adds. As a result of this, people often become skeptical of that friend and reluctant to interact with them like they did before this information was revealed. 

2. There is a threat to social identity support

Having friends that value who we are and what we believe in is important for feeling seen and affirmed, Bayard Jackson continues. This might include our gender, religion, ethnicity, languages we speak or vocation. “If I discover that a friend is aligned with something else, I start to think… ‘Do you support me? If you can support that, you don’t get me,’” she says.  

Political groups in particular have become embedded in many people’s identities. “[Political parties] represent a lot of your values and how you see humanity—how you see yourself—so it feels difficult to be in relationship with people who don’t share those views or that experience of the world,” Bayard Jackson says.

3. There is a threat to psychological safety

Feeling safe around friends should be a given, but once we unearth their true beliefs, we may no longer feel like we can be ourselves around them. Choosing friends that share our values offers a layer of security because they understand us, Bayard Jackson adds. “This doesn’t mean that you cannot befriend someone who has different values,” she says, “but you probably feel a certain level of safety, security and support with being in community with people who do.”

For those who no longer feel safe or find it to be too much work to be around that person, it may be time to consider if the friendship is worth your time and energy. 

How to evaluate a friendship based on voting habits

If you suspect how a friend voted but aren’t sure, Bayard Jackson recommends reflecting on the following questions before confronting them:

• Why do you want to know? 
• What will this information offer you? 
• Do you already suspect that this is a person you can’t trust?
• What other evidence do you have in your friendship? Have they already shown you that they are thoughtful, compassionate and supportive of causes that are important to you?  
• Are there certain people you need to know this information about, such as close friends, while it might not matter for others? 

If you have a friend who refuses to discuss politics, but it’s important to you, that may be the only answer you need. “For close friends especially, they might feel like it feels ridiculous to not be able to share that,” Bayard Jackson says. “Why would you not tell me? And the fact that you won’t—now I’m even more suspicious.”

What to do about a questionable friendship

Fortunately, “you have a lot of options between [being someone’s friend] and [cutting them off],” Bayard Jackson explains. “It doesn’t have to be all or nothing. We have so many options [for] how we can still enjoy this person’s company and adapt what we talk about, the frequency we talk, how deep we go.” She adds that you should always “show up in [a] way that feels good to you.”

Consider recategorizing the relationship to a place that feels safe and doable, such as shifting from spending every weekend together having deep, personal conversations to an occasional lunch and staying more on a surface level. “[What] might save a friendship is keeping it light,” she says.

Tips for how to end a friendship post-election

If you’ve spent hours reflecting on whether to keep this person in your circle and have concluded that it won’t work for you, then it’s time to figure out how to fade this person out of your life with as little drama as possible. This is where having a friendship coach can be beneficial. They can help you assess the specific details of the relationship and how to best handle any issues that arise during an uncomfortable interaction. 

For those who are ready to address the person head-on, Bayard Jackson suggests saying something like, “’I’ve been thinking a lot lately, and the last thing I want is for you to be upset with me or to take this the wrong way, but I think I have to prioritize… friendships where I feel a little more comfortable being myself. Where I feel a little more aligned…. It’s been really hard to be in friendship with you because I think we see the world so differently.’”

If you’re nervous about being that direct, consider bringing up topics to help you figure out their belief system. “If you don’t want to ask, you can share how you feel,” Bayard Jackson says. “You can say, ‘I just feel like people who voted for [a certain] candidate—it’s just so disappointing… and I just can’t understand it.’”

While these interactions can be awkward and uncomfortable, they really are necessary unless you want to spend the next few months or years lying about your availability, dodging your friend, blocking them and hoping you don’t see them in the grocery store. 

How to prevent this issue in the future

The positive part of weeding out friends is that you can now make room for new connections with people who are more aligned with you. The best way to get to know new people, according to Bayard Jackson, is to spend time together observing how they interact with others and react to important topics that you bring up casually in conversation.

You can also consider hiring a friendship coach before things get out of hand. Ask for referrals from people you trust or check out directories like CoachCompare, International Coaching Federation , The Life Coach School and Noomii to find the best coach for you.

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This article focuses on the Steadiness personality type and provides workable strategies for good communication with these individuals. Understanding how to communicate with the S-type personality can help you tailor your approach to align with their unique traits. This will help create stronger relationships, improve collaboration and create a more harmonious workplace. Communication that acknowledges the strengths and sensitivities of S personalities can also build trust and enhance overall team dynamics.

Traits Of A Steadiness Personality

The steady personality, also known as the personality type S, is characterized by calmness and reliability. They tend to be good listeners and appreciate collaboration. Patience, empathy, dependability, loyalty and consistency are other characteristics of this personality type. They typically value harmony, stability and support. Understanding the steady personality definition is the first step to building strong connections. This in turn can help you with effective communication. By identifying what motivates, stresses and defines the behaviors of the S personality type, you can ensure a communication approach that works with them on a deeper level. 

Recognizing their strengths can help you foster collaboration and trust. Being aware of their stressors and communication preferences can stop misunderstandings in their tracks and enhance productivity through the work team. This knowledge will contribute to good interactions and better overall working relationships.

Motivators

People with personality type S tend to thrive in stable environments as they struggle with unexpected changes. They enjoy working in teams where they feel valued and supported. Acknowledgment of their hard work and dedication motivates them to perform better. Stability and recognition are key motivators for this personality type.

Stressors

Steadiness DISC personality styles tend to avoid confrontation and can feel stressed in highly competitive or hostile settings. Sudden shifts in plans or lack of clear guidelines can be overwhelming. They prefer a steady pace where they can work effectively. Tight deadlines or high-pressure situations can also create challenges, as they value a sense of calm and predictability in their work environment.

Behaviors

Dependability and consistency are hallmark S personality traits, making them reliable team members. They are naturally attuned to others’ emotions and like to avoid conflict in relationships, which points to a high level of empathy. Their calm demeanor allows them to remain composed, even in challenging circumstances, showing their patient and steady nature.

Communication Styles Of Type S Personalities  

Knowing how to connect with different personalities can maximize productivity and create a strong work environment where everyone thrives. The DISC steadiness personality type S prefers interactions that are polite, respectful and considerate, avoiding conflict or aggressive tones. They value simplicity in communication, which helps them feel well-informed. Overloading them with too much information or having a confrontational style can spoil communication and create an uncomfortable atmosphere.

To ensure successful communication, active listening is important. Showing genuine interest in their viewpoints while also validating their emotions can strengthen trust and enhance collaboration. These individuals prefer conversations that prioritize solutions and enjoy environments that emphasize teamwork and mutual respect. By adapting to their non-confrontational nature and prioritizing thoughtful engagement, you can build stronger and more productive relationships. When communicating with S-style personalities:

• Be clear and concise in your communication.
• Maintain a calm and respectful tone in discussions.
• Actively listen and validate their concerns or ideas.
• Focus on fostering a supportive and collaborative atmosphere.
• Avoid overly complex or aggressive approaches.
• Use language that emphasizes unity and shared goals.

Tips For Communicating With A Steadiness Personality

Building rapport and fostering understanding with S personalities requires intentionality. Use these tips to communicate effectively:

1. Use Supportive Language.

Affirm their contributions and express appreciation for their efforts. Positive reinforcement builds trust and confidence. For example, you might say, “I really appreciate how you always keep the team organized. Your efforts make a big difference.”

2. Give Them Time to Process Information.

Allow S personalities the space to think and respond without feeling rushed. Remember that they prefer thoughtful and well-considered interactions. So, instead of saying, “We need this by tomorrow,” try, “Let’s aim to complete the first draft by Friday and review it together early next week.”

3. Set Realistic Goals.

Avoid overwhelming them with unrealistic expectations. Instead, clearly define objectives that play to their strengths.

4. Ask For Their Opinions.

Engage them in discussions by seeking their input. This plays to their strengths because they appreciate being included in decision-making processes. You might ask, “What do you think about this approach? Do you see any areas where we could improve?”

5. Prioritize Collaboration.

Encourage teamwork, as they thrive in collaborative environments where everyone works together toward common goals. For example, you could propose, “Why don’t we work on this as a group and divide the tasks based on our strengths?”

6. Provide Clear Instructions.

Avoid ambiguity and ensure that tasks and expectations are communicated in a straightforward manner. Instead of saying, “Can you handle this project?” try, “Can you prepare the budget report by Friday and ensure all data from last quarter is included?”

7. Avoid Pressuring Them.

Give them room to perform at their own pace but within reason. Excessive pressure and stress can lead to them becoming too enabling and accommodating.

8. Build Trust Gradually.

Demonstrate reliability and consistency in your interactions. S personalities value long-term trust over quick connections. Consistently following through on commitments like, “I’ll get back to you with feedback by Wednesday,” reinforces trust.

9. Be Patient.

Respect their natural pace and avoid pushing them to make hasty decisions. If they seem hesitant, you might say, “I know this is a big decision, so let’s take some time to think it through and revisit it in a couple of days.”

10. Encourage Open Dialogue.

Create a safe space for them to express concerns or share ideas without fear of judgment.

Another way to make sure you are hitting the mark with a Steady personality type is to provide reassurance. This is key to helping S personalities feel secure and valued. Regular updates about progress and timelines, including reviewing your expectations can reduce uncertainty and help with anxiety. Acknowledge their concerns, validate their feelings and remember to emphasize shared goals to build trust while offering positive feedback. 

Things To Avoid

In addition to avoiding overly complex or aggressive approaches, consider avoiding the following: 

• Avoid last-minute changes that don’t allow for time to adapt.  
• Don’t force them to make immediate decisions. 
• Avoid overlooking or ignoring their input or opinions. 
• Avid assigning tasks or projects without adequate resources or support. 

How to Manage Conflict With A Type S Personality

While S personalities typically avoid conflict, disagreements are inevitable in any workplace. Here are strategies to manage conflict effectively:

• Maintain a calm demeanor: Approach conflicts with patience and empathy.
• Focus on solutions: Shift the focus away from the problem and toward resolving the issue together.
• Use gentle language: Avoid harsh criticism or aggressive tones.
• Listen actively: Validate their feelings and demonstrate that you understand their perspective.
• Reassure them: Emphasize that the goal is mutual understanding and not confrontation.
• Provide clear explanations: Ensure they understand the reasons behind decisions or changes. This can help reduce uncertainty.
• Seek compromise: Work together to find acceptable solutions that prioritize harmony.
• Follow up: After resolving a conflict, check in to ensure they feel comfortable and supported moving forward.

How Other Personality Types Interact With S Personalities

Every personality has many different nuances and complexities. However, a few considerations for different personalities within the DISC framework include: 

• Dominance: D-type personalities may need to allow S types to consider and process information rather than expect immediate answers or decisions. 
• Influence: I types can focus on communicating in a calm and supportive manner to help S types feel comfortable. 
• Conscientiousness: Because C types value independence, they may want to work on ensuring they are supportive in terms of collaboration and teamwork with S types. 

Create A Stronger Workplace With Effective Communication

Effective communication with a Steadiness personality type hinges on empathy, patience and collaboration. By understanding their traits and adapting your communication style, you can build meaningful connections and create a positive work environment. This approach not only enhances individual relationships but also strengthens overall team morale. 

Embracing the DISC personality framework allows for a deeper appreciation of diversity in the workplace, paving the way for improved understanding. Explore more about this model to unlock the full potential of your team and create an environment where every personality type can thrive.

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Traits Of An I Personality Type

What is a DISC I personality type and what traits identify them? Looking at the influential personality meaning, we can see these individuals are often energetic, sociable and persuasive. They thrive in people-centered environments and are natural motivators who bring positivity to the workplace. As part of the I type in the DISC framework, they have dynamic and distinct traits that shape their behaviors and interactions. Understanding and identifying these characteristics can help you with your communication approach.

Motivators

I-type personalities are motivated by connection and creativity. They also crave recognition. They do their best work in collaborative environments where they can share ideas and see their contributions being truly appreciated. A study on the long-term impact of recognition in the workplace suggests that recognition and praise improve employee engagement. They enjoy working with others, taking the lead when needed and tackling challenges in a fast-paced setting. To keep them happy and engaged, it’s key to give them opportunities to share their ideas. This enables them to try new things while working within a positive, supportive team.

Stressors

Influence personality types tend to get stressed when they feel ignored, criticized or stuck in rigid routines. They may not do well with repetitive tasks or environments where there’s little room for creativity or connection. A lack of social interaction or regular, meaningful and positive feedback can make them feel unmotivated. To help reduce their stress, help them feel heard and keep things positive. Remember to give them some freedom to work their way as well.

Behaviors

Influence-style personalities are typically expressive and enjoy being in the spotlight. They may use their energy to lift and inspire those around them. They are natural storytellers and great communicators, thriving best in situations where they can share ideas and talk with others. They often bring a sense of fun and excitement to group settings, helping to create a good and positive atmosphere.

While excellent at generating this momentum, they sometimes prioritize excitement over practicality. This can lead to a need for guidance to stay grounded and ensure good task completion. Their optimism and enthusiasm make them important to building team morale and creativity.

Communication Styles Of I-Type Personalities

In workplace settings, I personality types tend to:

• Use enthusiastic and expressive language
• Focus on relationships and big-picture ideas rather than technical details
• Prefer open-ended discussions instead of rigid agendas
• Appreciate regular feedback that focuses on their contributions and creativity
• Seek opportunities to connect with others on a personal level
• Value collaborative brainstorming and energetic exchanges
• Avoid conflict and prefer maintaining harmony in relationships

Tips For Communicating With An Influence Personality

By knowing how to communicate with different personality types, leaders can better handle problems and express appreciation. Ultimately, it can help create a thriving workplace.

Understanding how to connect with a DISC-assessment I personality can significantly enhance workplace interactions. These individuals often energize their teams and create a positive environment. Effective communication ensures that their enthusiasm is channeled productively, fostering collaboration and achieving goals.

I-type personalities value personal connections and creativity, so showing genuine interest in their ideas and building rapport is essential. By acknowledging their contributions and allowing them to express themselves freely, you can strengthen your relationship and make them feel valued. Their energy and optimism can inspire teams, making them valuable collaborators.

Here are 10 tips for working effectively with an I-type personality:

1. Be Positive And Friendly. 

Start conversations with warmth and enthusiasm. I personalities respond well to upbeat, engaging communication. For example: “I love your idea! Let’s explore how we can make it work.”

2. Show Interest In Them.

Take the time to ask about their ideas, opinions and personal experiences. They appreciate feeling heard and valued. Ask open-ended questions about their ideas and experiences. For example: “What inspired you to think of that approach?”

3. Use Encouraging Language.

Highlight their strengths and contributions. Positive reinforcement boosts their motivation.

4. Be Collaborative.

Involve them in brainstorming and discussions. I-type personalities thrive in environments that encourage creativity and teamwork.

5. Provide Flexibility.

Allow for spontaneity and be adaptable. I personalities prefer less rigid structures and enjoy exploring various options. You could say, for example: “We need this by Friday, but feel free to tackle it in the way that works best for you.”

6. Focus On Big-Picture Goals.

Present ideas and plans in a way that emphasizes the vision rather than the nitty-gritty details.

7. Keep Communication Engaging.

Use storytelling and visuals, coupled with energetic language, to grab their attention and keep their interest.

8. Avoid Criticism Without Context.

Frame feedback constructively and pair it with praise. Criticism without the needed encouragement can lower their morale. You might say, for example: “Your energy is fantastic—let’s focus it on finalizing these details.”

9. Celebrate Their Achievements.

Public recognition or simple gestures of appreciation can go a long way in maintaining their morale.

10. Maintain Personal Connection.

Build trust by forming a genuine relationship. A little small talk and personal connection can work wonders, so spend time building a rapport. You might ask: “How was your weekend? I heard you went hiking—how was it?”

Things To Avoid

A few aspects to avoid with communicating with I-type personalities include: 

• Avoid micromanaging or being overly critical.
• Don’t downplay their ideas or enthusiasm.
• Avoid rigid agendas or restricting their creativity.
• Minimize focusing solely on facts and figures without engaging emotionally.

How to Manage Conflict With An I-Type Personality

Conflicts with DISC-Influence personalities can arise when they feel unappreciated or when their enthusiasm isn’t supported in the way they need. Here’s how to effectively manage and avoid conflict with an influential personality type:

• Stay positive and approach conflicts by focusing on solutions and optimism, rather than pointing out any perceived flaws.
• Be empathetic by acknowledging their feelings and concerns. They value emotional understanding in difficult situations.
• Offer constructive feedback in a way that encourages improvement without lowering their morale.
• When discussing solutions, focus on actions and results and avoid gossip or personal attacks.
• Involve them in resolving the issue collaboratively, knowing they thrive in teamwork-oriented approaches.
• Remind them of the positive aspects of your working relationship to rebuild trust and harmony.

How Other Personality Types Interact With I Personalities

Personalities all have many nuances, but some general trends to consider among different types in interacting with I-styles include:

• Dominance: D-type personalities might need to soften their directness to maintain harmony.
• Steadiness: S personalities often complement I types by providing stability and balance.
• Conscientiousness: C-type personalities might want to focus on connecting emotionally rather than emphasizing details.

Build Strong Connections Through Effective Communication 

Understanding and adapting to the communication preferences of I-type personalities can create more enjoyable and productive workplace relationships. By recognizing DISC-I personality traits and respecting their communication style while implementing effective strategies, you can make a positive partnership that plays to their strengths.

Using the DISC framework can provide deeper insights into how individuals perceive the world, interact with others generally and approach tasks. With this knowledge, you can build stronger relationships and create a more dynamic and engaging work environment that includes collaboration and good communication that works for everyone.

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